It is What it is
It is what it is, we all use this little phrase from time to time, but for some reason I’m not particularity fond of it.
I would prefer to say ‘it is what it is – but is it really’? Saying it this way for me implies that I’m not really settling for what is, or giving up on what is, but I am giving thoughts to second guessing and also hoping to keep my options open, sort of speak.
It is what it is, is like throwing your hands up in the air and quitting. It might be what it is in the moment, and for that reason, the ‘it is what it is’ gesture might fit, but in the short and long term, nothing has to be what it is, especially if you don’t like it.
What does ‘it is what it is’ imply anyway, why do people say it and what are they trying to convey when they do? It sort of sounds like we are saying ‘fuck it’, ‘there is nothing I can do about it’ or ‘it’s not my problem’!
None of those little sentences resinate with my energetic mind set, how about yours? Does ‘it is what it is’ mean there is nothing we can do about it, so we should just screw it and forget about it, keep putting up with it, it ain’t gonna change, tough shit, oh well, is that what we are trying to communicate to people when we use this annoying phrase?
I think the problem with ‘it is what it is’ is that it abdicates responsibility, 5 tiny words that literally are able to shut down our problem solving juices and settle for defeat.
‘It is what it is’ attitude won’t help you get creative in shaping the quality ’what could happen’ in your Soul, so you can really get to work on solving what ever it is.
Don’t you think we are all born to be leaders in some way, that there is a quality about us that we are meant to share with others to make a little (or big) difference in this world, don’t you think? How can we be effective leaders if we adopt the ‘it is what it is’ attitude!
Maybe this all sounds a bit silly, but I strongly believe that what we speak is what we manifest, what we think is what becomes our reality.
So if we go around with the perspective and a settled way of thinking then we really are not leaving our options open, at all. That’s not ok with me. Lets start putting out a different and more positive mantra into the world. Maybe you are already, and for that I say good for you!
‘It is what it is’, and what I say to that is ‘no it’s not’ and I prefer a different approach, a more positive creative problem solving approach to everything and anything .