Is Balance Over-rated?
We hear that word so often from people, ‘balance,’ it’s all about balance!
What is balance anyway? What the heck does it mean?
In the dictionary the word balance is defined as this “a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions”.
I suppose this word-perfect analogy is a good place to start.
If you’re not feeling 100% in the emotional state of ‘bliss’ then chances are you are ‘out of balance.’ Don’t feel bad, because 91% of this world’s population isn’t feeling that bliss thing either.
I used to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. I know those words are just a metaphor but for me it felt true and was very real.
I nearly worried myself to death, literally.
I stressed about my partner; I worried about my children; I argued over money; I questioned the food I was feeding my family; I agonized when I listened to the news; I fretted about the weather; I got upset when someone got sick; and I over-thought just about every thought that came into my head. I was a mess—to put it mildly.
Then one day I decided that I couldn’t take it anymore, so I didn’t and I made some changes. Sounds like it was an easy transition doesn’t it?
Nope! It wasn’t easy at all; in fact leaving all that ‘worry’ behind was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, because it was all internal work. It was deep inner Soul work.
One beautiful day I just happened to be paying extra attention to a situation and I got a glimpse of something that changed my life. All of the ‘changes’ that I have made since that beautiful day have guided me to learn more about balance, and how to achieve it.
My journey has been a long and winding road, full of lessons, lots of tears and hard inner work—but I have actually succeeded in balancing my life.
The most important thing to remember when you are wondering about the whole balance thing is this—never give away more of yourself than your comfortable with.
The side-effects of giving up too much are awful;
If you are feeling fed up, utterly exhausted, or even just really tired, unhappy, resentful, overwhelmed, sleeping your life away, or having trouble sleeping, not eating or eating too much; if you find yourself crying for no reason and if you just can’t take it anymore, then you have probably given away way too much of ‘you’.
Rule number one—you have to balance how much you give away to everyone else and how much you give to yourself.
Once you get the scales tipping evenly or close enough to it, that is when you will start to shed all of those terrible side-effects I was talking about. You will begin to recognize that you matter also. You will start to feel good about yourself. Your mood will lighten because your energy is vibrating more on the positive side.
Balance is about taking care of yourself. That doesn’t have to mean that you are selfish, it simply means that ‘you’ matter just as much as the other people in your life. All of the people that you take good care of. Now it’s time to take care of yourself too.
Think about balance today, and when you do, think of YOU!