Often times when we are wronged we naively believe that in order to be aligned with divine forgiveness, we are suppose to allow this person the same access to our lives that they once had, this is false.
Forgiveness is freeing yourself from the resentment or pain that this person caused you and enabling feelings of freedom through the process of understanding that respectful absence can be a form of forgiveness as well.
Not everyone whom desires access to your life, your heart and your spirit are worthy of the access they seek. Protect it.
Your time is your most valuable asset, by all means be selfless to those whom will appreciate it. But to continuously allow yourself to be used and suffer through other peoples actions, you are doing no one any justice, especially yourself.
Take care of ‘you’ first so that you can take care of your purpose and be all the you are meant to be. Forgiveness often can be a touchy subject.
Forgiveness is the last thing you want to do if you have been wronged by another person. Just forgive and forget, people might say to you, but unfortunately there is no space in your heart that will allow you to do that, not in the present moment at least.
Perhaps what holds us back from forgiving is our Soul. Our Soul will try to protect us in what ever way it can. Not always forgetting what another person did to us is the correct way to view the solution to the problem.
Maybe having that respectful absence can be a form of forgiveness. It is our choice to filter through those who would like access to our life, there will be some who are not worthy of this access.
You are your own body guard, protect yourself. How you take care of yourself is how other people will regard to what level or degree you will ‘put up with’.
Don’t send the message to anyone that it is ok to abuse, neglect or use you.
Perhaps it is time to take a look at your internal closet, if you see something that doesn’t belong anymore, is terribly outdated or simply worn out, get rid of it.