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confront Your Urge To Invade

confront Your Urge To Invade


How do we recognize genuine heartfelt compassion versus the Ego wanting to engage in drama? Empathy is a trait we all like to think we have.

But is our benevolence pure and honest, and how can we tell when it is and when it isn’t? Life allows us opportunities to face all kinds of situations, some sticky and others not so much.

Now and then when a sticky circumstance arises we might hear ourselves saying, “I’m damned if I do, and I’m damned if I don’t with this one.”

Confusing as it may be, whatever it is we are facing, we do our best to act appropriately for the situation at hand. We don’t always do the right thing, but we made a choice that was right at the time and we shouldn’t have to argue that fact.

At least once in your life you will come face to face with a circumstance that will forcefully pull at your heartstrings. You will find that this situation is meant to test you in a very big way, and perhaps allow you to discover something about yourself that you hadn’t much paid attention to before.

Compassion has many synonyms; for example, sympathetic pity, concern, kindness and humanity, and compassionate tolerance. No one likes to see another person suffer physically because of an ailment or disease, and none of us like to see anyone suffer emotionally either.

We might empathize with either scenario, which feels natural as we have all had our hearts broken and most of us have broken a bone or two as well.

The thing about being a witness to someone’s sorrow when they are hurting inside is knowing when to get involved and when not to. Resisting the urge to intervene is one of those sticky situations.

You yourself may understand what the problems are, and you may have a hundred different ways to help that person resolve them, but what if the one who is suffering doesn’t have a clue, and they are unconsciously aware? Do you jump in with both feet regardless, and if you do, would this be your Ego marching in?

Or do you decide to empathize without invading? Every situation is different and deserves a compassionate outcome, but just be careful when you think you should get involved, and maybe ask yourself again if you really should.

Do you really and truly care, or is it the drama you are attracted to?

Much Love, Annanda